Orgasm Control and Male Chastity

Orgasm control—Why would a man want that??? Admit it, you’ve noticed yourself countless times how your energy and drive deflate for a while after an orgasm. It’s called the “refractory period,” the recovery time after an orgasm during which a man is not sexually responsive. As a side note—luckily for us sex workers—females don’t have a refractory period and are able to enjoy multiple orgasms in a row. The decline in male energy is not just hearsay. In a recent study published in The Journal of Sports Medicine and Physical Fitness, the authors concluded: “… sexual intercourse the night before a football match may have a negative influence on players' performance.” Well, you can’t be any clearer than that, and I dare to speculate that Taylor Swift was left unsatisfied last night considering her boyfriend’s appearance in tonight’s Superbowl…

So, how can you tame your tiger? Let me introduce you to the exciting realm of orgasm control and male chastity.

Orgasm Control through Self-Discipline

You know from your own experience how this works out! During and after the COVID pandemic, many of my clients who saw me felt mentally exhausted and physically unfulfilled because they had spent so much time watching porn and jerking off too much. The reality is that very few men can control their urge to masturbate when left to their own devices (no pun intended.) While researchers still debate whether porn addiction qualifies as an addiction in medical terms, it is a fact that it negatively impacts a man’s daily life, his relationships, and his ability to function. There are numerous tips for getting your masturbation habits under control, such as deleting porn from your devices, replacing your porn habit with a different hobby (e.g., exercising), and identifying your triggers (e.g., stress) and developing strategies for avoiding them.

Orgasm Control to Become a Better Lover

Lovemaking becomes much more sensual and fulfilling when you can control your orgasm. The more you can control and delay your orgasm, the longer you will stay in that blissful and ecstatic state of making love to a woman. Like Usain Bolt who wasn’t born a world-class sprinter, becoming a great lover with stamina requires training and practice. Of course, you could devote yourself to becoming a world-class lover. Malcolm Gladwell mentions in his book Outliers that you need to spend 10,000 hours to become truly world class in a field, but that might be unrealistic for most men. Instead, you can already achieve a significant improvement in orgasm control through a technique called edging or tease-and-denial, in which your female partner goes through cycles of arousing you and stimulating your penis, while stopping short of letting you reach an orgasm. This technique requires skills and happens to be one of my specialty services that I offer to clients. Book a session with me today and let me help you become a better lover!

The Game Changer: Orgasm Control as a Kink

The real game changer that I offer to clients is orgasm control as a kink. One variation is called a ruined orgasm, where after repeated edging I push you just slightly beyond the “point of no return” and then immediately stop any physical stimulation. This will force a man to a pulsating ejaculation without experiencing a satisfying orgasm. After a ruined orgasm, men don’t go through a refractory period, and my clients get to enjoy a second, “full” orgasm later in the session. This is also a great entry into BDSM since ruined orgasms are often part of FemDom play. But the real game changer is male chastity where a mistress controls not only your orgasm but your very ability to having even an erection. This is accomplished by locking up your penis in a cage-like device and handing the key to your mistress. From my own experience with subs (and my husband,) chastity for a few days or even weeks dramatically elevates your energy levels, mental focus, and dedication to females. Men in chastity are able to get into great shape quickly because they channel their sexual energy into a serious workout regime. And they naturally become more romantic and devoted lovers since they crave their release. Every man should try at least once in their life the experience of chastity, and I’m here to let you try out this kink!

For those of you who read this and haven’t met me yet, I’m just a booking form away. And for my “regulars:” my compliments for having made a smart choice and my sincere thanks for letting me help you become better lovers!